Affinity (n): A natural attraction, liking, or feeling of kinship.
In August I started to talking to a wonderful man. We met through this blog and even though we lived a few hundred miles apart, it seemed that I had met someone who understood me…who got me. Know what I mean? We would talk for hours upon hours. Some conversations lasting 8 hours. We’d talk until the wee hours of morning. I was really happy. I loved talking to him. He made me feel normal, justified in my reactions to life and my experiences. He made me feel good.
We exchanged loads of pictures and emailed everyday. It was awesome. We arranged for a weekend to meet up and kept on talking, excitement about the future date coloring the phone calls brightly and vibrantly.
Attraction (n): The electric or magnetic force exerted by oppositely charged particles, tending to draw or hold the particles together.
Life is fucking unfair at times. This man that I liked and was so emotionally attracted to…attached to met up with me this weekend. And he was exactly like he was in his pictures. And he was exactly like he was on the phone. But there was no spark. No physical attraction. On both of our ends. It was like hanging out with an old friend, not a potential date. Don’t get me wrong, I had a great time hanging with him and we are definitely going to remain friends. It’s just so unfair that I find this great guy and there is no chemistry. Fucking sucks.
Oh well. I’m taking a break from men for a while. Not because of this particular incident, but I haven’t just chilled out and been alone in over a year. I’ve decided to date myself for a while before I get back into the thick of things again.
To the guy who just left my house and who came all the way here to meet me. You’re great and thank you for everything.
Fresh Air Lover 
No chemistry that sucks!!! At least you made another friend!!
youll find someone when your least expecting it!!
RR
Yep, now that you’ve gone into “break” mode, someone will stumble in unexpectedly.
bella
It never hurts to have another friend, but damn that sucks. Especially since he was everything he presented himself to be. Seriously, how often does THAT happen?
RR: Yeah, it does suck. I’m going to just chill alone right now.
bella: That’s what they always say, huh?
dirk: No, it doesn’t hurt to have another friend. It’s cool.
I know exactly how you feel and that’s no joke.
i agree with dirk. how often does someone represent themselves honestly?
anyway, sorry to hear about that, fresh. enjoy yourself chilling and re-charging for a while, and good luck with future endeavours…
So sorry, FAL. You’ll always have me, though – your chocolate mocha boy.
Word.
Chemistry is an interesting thing.
Not that this applies in your case but, my husband and I were friends first and when we first met I wasn’t attracted to him. As I said before, chemistry is an interesting thing.
I agree with what everyone else has said, it’s great to have found a really good friend.
JR: No, it’s definitely no joke.
sage: People rarely represent themselves with such honesty. Luckily, that wasn’t the case this time.
DD: Oh, I love having you as my chocolate mocha boy.
HDD: Chemistry is very very interesting. And very important.
The last time I took a break from men, I met my husband. And no, there was no chemistry at first, but it didn’t take long.
I think dating yourself is a great idea. Show yourself a good time!
I used to look for ants all the time when i was a kid. i wanted to start an ant farm. But i could never find any ants. Can you believe that? Ants are fucking everywhere but i could never find any.